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When blessings are not blessings..

Tell me why do we always say things are a blessing when they really aren't?
Is it because we are afraid to speak the truth?
is it because by stating its not a blessing you could sound ungrateful?
I am very grateful for God's provisions, but will say that somethings are NOT a blessing! The truth is, its hard, it makes me wonder what He is doing, and why!

ok I know all of you are wondering what in the world I am talking about... I am talking about our living conditions. I have tried for the last 10 weeks to convince myself that this place is a blessing. But to be honest- IT has not been. Its not the physical place, it is not the beautiful mountains, or even the hour drive back and forth to my parents. Its the people who own it.

Their children have been a burden to my whole family. They have disrespected our privacy, and our things. They have no discipline, nor guidance in their lives. They have no idea how to honor others more than themselves. But what do you say? We have tried to set the boundaries that are needed for our sake and theirs, but they don't want to honor them.

I have held all this in for 10 weeks, not sure who to even share this with or how to even share this respectfully but the truth is the truth.

We do our children a GREAT injustice when do not train them. When we do not teach them how to respect others. When we don't show them that NOT EVERYTHING is about them.

Over the 20 years I have been a mother I have heard TIME and TIME again how great my children are. How wonderful, and how much people enjoy them. How well behaved, and respectful they are. Often times I say thank you, but every once and awhile I will say- to the Glory of God, but it has been ALOT of work.

Raising children is not easy. IT takes alot from both parents. Lots of time and prayer!! key word was time! They don't raise themselves. They don't learn manners on their own. They don't know right from wrong on their own, and they don't know how to respect others if they don't respect you.

I have always had this philosophy in life, I never wanted anyone to say" We love Sam and Angie, but those children. They are just so unruly I hate spending time with them because of those children."

Children are a blessing. Given to us by the Lord to raise, direct in the way they should go, to bring Him Glory and to leave a heritage, a legacy.



Lord help us!! Help us realize as parents how much we need to guide our children by your Word.

In Jesus Name!
Amen

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  1. (((hugs))) Is this why you have been discouraged? I am praying for you and hugging you across the miles, sweet friend.

    Call me tomorrow if you get a chance. I wasn't sure if you were up late anymore or not. :) Miss you!

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  2. Angie,
    I just want to say a hearty "Amen!" but I know it must have been so hard to feel that way and live with it for 10 weeks. I am praising the Lord for you being in your home now. I wanted to let you know that I have passed on the "Stylish Blog Award" to you. I don't know if you do awards...
    but if you would like it, come over to my blog and pick it up. (You don't have to feel obligated to do all the requirements.)
    Blessings to you and yours,
    Wendy Gunn
    Faith's Firm Foundation
    www.wendygunn.net

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