Leaving Home..

This questions remains in the back of my mind... 

Where is it within the Word-the adaptation that has occurred in Church Society that when a young person becomes 18 years of age- that they are to go out and "spread their wings" and live on their own? 

The bible is so clear on so many facts- sin, purity, marriage, men,women, children, relationships with one another and the foundation of the church, but the bible has nothing to say about this matter. I beg to differ. I believe the bible is clear its just that parenting a young adult is so difficult that it has become easier for parents to say "do what you want" and to turn a blinds eyes to their sin than to live out what the Word has.

Let's begin with this very simple verse:

This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 HCSB)

Everyone knows this verse- this is the verse for marriage the one that tells us exactly what is to be done when a man marries. He is to leave his mother and father and bond himself to his wife.

 Now here is the question- if he is a man, one of 18 years or older and he was to be out on his own, finding his way, spreading his wings, and "figuring this out on his own" then why would this verse say," this is why a man LEAVES his father and mother..." This would imply that he is still living at home right??? Yes, in this verse there is a clear understanding that young adults are to stay home until marriage. 

Why should young adults stay home until marriage?

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22 KJV)

Psalm 119:9-10 ESV 

How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments!

1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV 

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 John 2:16 ESV 

For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world.

How do you flee youthful lusts on your own? Living by yourself?

Accountability and living life per your own understanding with out the protection or spiritual counsel of your parents becomes difficult which is why so many Young adults from the age 18-30 years of age leave the church. They return after they have married, after they have lived a life of immorality, and sexual sin. All because we have within the church adopted the philosophies of the world in believing that once they turn 18 years old, my job is done. 

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV 

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

The bible says WOE to him who is alone- but that is exactly what we have done. We have left them alone. Left them to themselves.

Proverbs 14:16 ESV 

One who is wise is cautious and turns away from evil, but a fool is reckless and careless.

We have become reckless and careless when it comes to the hearts and souls of our young adults.. At the same time they have become foolish in thinking that they can do this on their own. 

The Word is clear again- though not mentioned but twice - a man is to leave his mother and father and bond himself to his wife- these verse spell out what a young person is to do in the season before marriage. Stay home under the spiritual protection of your parents, pray, and be in the Word. 

Lord we again have failed- guide us with your truth. 

Solo Para Gloria De Dios

Angie